About the pants...

So far in my life, I have owned two pairs of pants (jeans actually) metaphorically speaking. One pair I wore for 20 years. They were worn, had holes in them and frayed around the hem. Because they were old, you would think they would be comfortable, soothing and reliable. There were times when I loved wearing them, but then times when no matter how much I wore them, how much I tried to make them work... they just didn't fit right. They pinched in all the wrong places, were uncomfortable and proved they weren't reliable as they continued to fall apart. Plus, after a while, the holes in them was drafty, I was tired of trying to hold the frayed pieces together... so I gave up. I guess it was a bit humiliating too when a new pair of jeans came around and starting getting all the attention. The hardest thing I have ever done in my lifetime was file for divorce. I realized, finally, that no matter how you put the jeans on... they dang well just weren't gonna fit right. So, off with the old pants (my marriage) ... and on with the new? Which new ones huh.... his or mine. Wow, that's quite a story in itself. As for his new pair of jeans he acquired... I personally would love to have made them into a purse. At least I would have gotten some use out of that situation.

My Introduction

My name is Karen and I am one of the many intelligent women who are living life divorced. When you pick up a magazine or watch tv you find stories or movies about love, marriage, control, abuse, divorce, dating (so many online dating commercials) and children. And what about the titles you see such as Why men love and then leave, The top ten mistakes women make in a relationship, Why you can't keep a man... the list goes on and on.

I often find humor in these topics that really don't have anything to do with relationships, it's just different peoples observations, people that aren't a part of our relationship and don't have a clue. My daughter has a blog and said I should start one. She felt it would be fun and also a good way to release the tension that everyday life brings. So here I am writing simply about my observations and contemplations on this journey of life.

By the way, you are probably wondering about the blog title. My best friend told me once "you can't put on a new pair of pants until you take off the old ones". Stay tuned and you will understand the meaning of her statement.